Getting Right Back At It—30DBC Day 11

I have no idea if anybody ever noticed, but yes I didn’t update the blog for the last four days.  During that time my sites went down as well, so I could have just blamed it on my hosting company, but I’m coming clean. My head is not that big to think everybody is waiting for my post, but I have a feeling my supportive friend Ben might have noticed and chances are, didn’t say anything.

I’ve been hearing the word serendipity more often than usual last couple of weeks. Call me flaky, but I like the idea, and believe in it. I got my new job in a way, serendipitously, and many of the team was recruited in a similar way. Very cool.

Last few days it was all about Social Media Camp and TicTalking, I couldn’t spare time to write here. Now I’m back to reality and getting back at it. And I see this in from Chris Brogan in my RSS reader:

Work The Plan 

I was actually thinking of Jacq‘s12in12 and also The Front Nine by one and only Mike Vardy when I was thinking of my own falling. I’m not beating myself up for not doing the 30 consecutive days. No drama. When you stop, take the time, and just start writing again. No biggie.

It was great to see Chris again, this time right here in Victoria, but I never told him about my blog, so I found this quite serendipitous. Thank you for the post Chris.

2011 Year in review

I see many friends uploading their “Year in Review” posts and I’m finally sitting down to write it myself.

Looking back, 2011 was a busy year for me. I am not sure if it’s neccesarily a bad thing though. I’m just re-reading my posts from this year and reflecting.

Here are some of the big moments of 2011.

– Dove Singing in the Rain campaign.

In February, I flew in to Toronto with 13 other fabulous women to film a web commercial. The shoot was a lot of fun, but what I got out of this project was handful of really amazing friends. We live all over Canada, but we constantly connect and share through social media. The experience and the friendship is definiately something money cannot buy, and I am so grateful for them.

-Japan Earthquake and Tsunami

As I read my past posts, I could see March was a rough month. I wrote about running into my friend, and re-reading this post got me all tear up. They are still in Japan and she is getting treatments.

Then the 311 earthquake happened. I didn’t write anything about it on this blog, mainly because I didn’t know what to write. What can I write when your home country is hit by the biggest disaster since World War ll? I still remember the hopeless, devastated feeling I felt while watching all the TV footage. I was asked to talk on a national TV show and I barely got to speak as I was crying. It’s been 9 months and still 300,000 people are without homes.

Then amazing Victoria community all came together to put on Hope Love Japan fundraising event. The event was a huge success and we have raised over $14,000 CDN and have been donated to Canadian Red Cross.

-Trip to Japan in May

Because of the earthquake and Tsunami, my plan to visit Japan with my kids have been changed, and I ended up going by myself. I was there about two weeks, and thought this might be my first and last time to visit Japan without kids. (Turns out I am doing it again in February 2012)

I visited my family in Sasebo, Nagasaki, and then I also stayed in Tokyo for a week. Believe it or not, this was the first time I spent so much time in Tokyo, and I had an absolute blast. I met many online friends there – many from Tasukeai Japan team where I volunteer. I even got to meet Chief Cabinet Secretary, that was cool.

I met up with many online friends and we got to discuss social media. There is a huge gap between how social media is perceived and used in Japan and North America, and it was fascinating to learn that. This made me realize one day I would like to the work to connect them together.

-It’s all about social media

Last half of 2011 were filled with many social media events. I was a part of Social Media Camp again this year. Great to see Jayagain and meet Amber for the first time. See how much fun we had?

Also, Russel and I had a one year anniversary of Getting Engaged show. We are thankful for all your support and hoping to kick it up a notch in 2012.

In October, I was back in Toronto for Blissdom Canada. It was so wonderful to see all the online friends.

Then I also did BlogWorld LA in November. This is the year I finally started to see that I am part of this industry. I stopped to feel insecure about exactly what I’m contributing to the industry, just that I am part of it.  I met so many amazing people like Chris and Jacq, and they continue to inspire me on daily basis. For that I am very grateful.

-I fell in love

As you know I have been single since I separated from my ex-husband. I have dated here and there but I was almost just as happy to be by myself.

This all changed when I was in LA.

Did you hear about this guy’s ghostwriter story? I do remember catching it on Twitter(pretty sure it was Scott Stratten‘s RT). At that moment I had no idea who he was, but I read the story, thought it was funny, and went about my day.

In early October, my friend Dan hosted his usual High Noon Hump Day Lunch Tweetup. (He does this on Wednesdays.) I do remember I was on the fence about attending. Maybe I was feeling lazy. But I went anyway. Little did I know he was the guest for the tweetup and Dan had interviewed him over Skype. I tweeted about it and later he thanked me for it -and that’s how we met. I already had the plan to go to LA, so we met up- in fact, he picked me up at the airport when I landed in LA, and we have been together ever since.

The funny thing I learned about myself over this experience is, when you meet someone you have been waiting for your whole life as your dream man, you freak out. I came up with all kinds of excuses for not being with him. It’s the fear…fear of failure, fear of getting hurt again, fear of judgement, etc etc, that prevents me from being courageous and just go with the flow. Luckily, I came to senses and now I have never been this happy.


Finally, this is not a popularily contest, but I wanted to thank few people who has influenced me this year.

Jason Kolt

I met Jason over Twitter and we met up for coffee earlier in the year. I remember we closed down the coffee shop. He is sensitive, creative, funny and although we are both so busy and don’t get to see each other too much, I feel he gets me. I hope to spend more fabulous time with him in 2012.

Chris Guillebeau

I’ve read Chris‘ “The Art of Non-Conformity” few months ago, but this is the year I realized he’s the man I really want to learn from. I want to do what he does- work location independently and travel. I am hoping to attend World Domination Summit(WDS) in 2012 and learn and grow.

Mike Vardy

Mike is the productivity expert and writer based right here in Victoria, and I got to have some interesting chat with him later this year. I value his opinion and perspective greatly, as I know he and I share a very similar view of the industry. He is the one who recommended I attend WDS. I feel as though he is my senior coalleague.

Steve Hof

Steve owns Sauce Restaurant and Lounge in Victoria. He and I became friends around June and we always have the best conversations. He is passionate about his restaurant, social media and giving back to the community. I also want to thank him for pointing me into Crossfit. I started training in the fall, and as hard as hell it is, I am still doing it. It is a completely new workout program for me, but I think I actually enjoy it. So, thanks Steve.


Overall, 2011 was a busy, exciting, and also a tough year. But I don’t believe too much in looking back. I believe in looking forward. So, here’s my farewell to 2011 and I am excited to welcome the new year.


Some days..

Have you ever done Myers-Briggs Personality Test?
According to the test, I am a type ENFJ, meaning I tend to have following qualities – (E)Extrovert, (N)Intuition (F)Feeling (J) Judging.

But as my friend Jamie once told me, I’m an Introverted Extrovert. I like to go out and meet people and be social, but at the same time, some days I hate people.

Past few weeks I have been feeling introverted. I was frustrated and disappointed with few of my friends, acquaintances, and colleagues.
I was watching the film Norwegian Wood, (Hoping to do a blog post on this book as it’s one of the most important books in my life), and there is a scene where Midori asks Toru, the protagonist;

Midori: You enjoy solitude? Travelling alone, eating alone, sitting by yourself in lecture halls…
Toru: Nobody likes being alone that much. I don’t go out of my way to make friends, that’s all. It just leads to disappointment.

.. I couldn’t agree more.

Some days, I get tired of meeting other people’s needs (great post by Chris Brogan on this topic here).
Some days, I feel like nobody cares about my needs.
Nobody cares about your success and happiness. All they care about is their own.
That’s why, you need to be strong, you need to believe in yourself and work hard to make yourself happy.

But then again, some days I feel so fortunate to have many great friends and opportunities.
Last night and this morning were couple of those days.
I’m grateful for these days. They are like a little treasure, like a beautiful sea glass in sand.

Resolutions for 2011

So here it is. I am sure many of you have written your first blog post of 2011. I wanted to make sure I post mine today too, while it’s still January 1st.
Here are my resolutions for 2011.

1) To read more than 2 books in a month.
My original resolution was to read a book a week, and it came from Julien’s post. I love reading but “I don’t have time” and “English is not first language” have forever been my excuses for not reading enough.
In 2009, I read 35 books and 90% of them were in Japanese. I can read a Japanese book in a day, but if it’s in English, I often take about a month to finish. Last year, I probably read about only 4-5 books.
So I decided to try one book a week challenge, and I even told Russel about it on New Year’s Eve…but I’ve modified it last minute. I was already stressed about the challenge and I thought I’d rather set an achievable goal. So, I will read 2 books a month, and if I can read more, that is a bonus.

2) To not to make excuses.
This is pretty straight forward, right? Last year, I went though some big changes in my life, and that was an excellent excuse for not doing something. I am sick and tired of that. This year, I am moving forward.

3) Listen to more podcast. Learn more.
My friend Victoria posted this on Twitter; “NY resolution: Walk every day & listen to an awesome podcast, no matter where I am in the world. Starting w this list:”
What an awesome idea!!
I’ve never been much of a podcast person. But since I moved closer to downtown, I started to walk everywhere, and when I do, I listen to music on my iPod. So, I recently downloaded all the episodes of my favourite podcast, Grammar Girl and started to listen to it and I am LOVING this new habit. Actually learning something new every day is amazing. Thanks Vicky.

That’s all I have as resolutions, but Chris Brogan just posted that he’d set 3 words of the year and I like the idea too. I also happened to watch Dan Pink‘s video today with his question “What is your sentence?”, which is another great question. They both gave me something to ponder about and I’m grateful for them.

Also, few days ago my coach suggested I watch a TED talk by Brene Brown; Power of Vulnerability, and I just about fell in love with her.
It’s a great talk, worth sharing so I will post it here.

I might add “Embrace vulnerability” on my list too.